Recently my wife and I were helping our daughter prepare for a national exam. It was the Preliminary Scholastic Assessment Test (PSAT) or also known as National Merit Scholarship Qualifying Test (NMSQT). For my readers who are not familiar with this, it is one of the standardized tests high school students here in the US take. It is one thing colleges can use to evaluate for admissions, as well as qualification for scholarship grants. It is akin to the National College Entrance Examination (NCEE) in the Philippines which I took to apply for college. (By the way, NCEE was abolished in 1994, ten years after I took it.)
It seems only yesterday, we were introducing the ABC’s to our daughter and teaching her how to count 1, 2, 3. Now she is way beyond 1A + 2/B = 3C. And indeed, we are preparing her for college admission already. In another blink, she’ll be off to college. Where did time go?
I would consider myself an expert test taker. That’s not bragging. Or maybe a little bit. With college exams, medical school tests, medical licensure exams (both US and Philippines), American board exam and different subspecialties board certifications – I believe I have taken so many exams that I have my test-taking skills refined to a tee. But that’s not my best qualification to coach my daughter for the PSAT. I may also have aced my college admission test, but that’s not my prime qualification either.
I believe my foremost qualification to help my daughter prepare for the exam, is the plain fact that I am his father, and I really cared for her future. In fact, my wife and I have taken our children’s education personally that we homeschooled them.
I remember my father telling me years ago, that the best inheritance they could leave me is education. We may not have much but I am thankful to my parents for the education they provided me, and the opportunities it opened for me that led me where I am now.
I have mentioned in the past that my father came not from a family of means, but a family of farmers in the Philippines. They were hardworking yet simple people. My father was the first one in their kinsfolk to pursue a higher education and to have a college degree. He did it by working to support himself through college.
My mother on the other hand came from a family of teachers. Most of them were elementary school teachers, including my mom. She was my first teacher, who introduced me to reading and math, even before I officially enrolled in kindergarten.
I have also mentioned in my past posts, that I am the first in our clan to go to medical school. I wished my dad could have seen me graduate, but he died prematurely even before I completed my first year. Even though he passed away, I was blessed that I was still able to finish medical school. Thanks to scholarship.
Last year, one nephew of mine, finished medical school. So I am not the only doctor now in our clan. I hope there will be another one in the future, even in my own immediate family.
My daughter does not know yet exactly what college course she wants to pursue. Nonetheless she is leaning towards music and math. One thing she knows though is that she does not want to be a medical doctor, and I am fine with that.
But there’s more important things in life than grades and scoring high in exams. There’s more important assets in this world than titles and college degrees. Values like integrity, honesty, perseverance, love, and family, just to name a few. I hope I can teach these to my children as well.
Whatever happens to the PSAT/NMSQT; or whatever college or career my daughter pursues; or whatever future for that matter, she will have – there is one thing that will not change. And that is I will be proud of her no matter what. Just for the simple reason, that she is my daughter.
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Ah yes, you’re heading towards a milestone in your lives. Yours and hers. Best of luck to her. As parents we can only hope they half listened half the time. We can only wish them well. We can help open some doors for them. The rest they have to do themselves just like we have had to.
My son a freshman student got accepted at UCF the second largest of enrollment in the nation (60,000+) with 30,000 freshman applicants and only 6,400 were accepted without much participation from me or involvement during application. I’m just happy that he was accepted where we want him to be. My son does not share much of his activities and plans so I became like a passive mom. He is taking Biomedical Sciences as preparatory for medicine. His IQ test said he is borderline gifted (125) but at this moment he s having difficulty with Calculus, they only meet once a week in that class and he said that the professor does not really teach in detail but expect that you know the subject perhaps having assumption that one should have taken pre calculus in high school, a subject in which my son did not take at all. I came to moments of reflection and told myself I just want my son to be happy… No matter what he achieve in life whether it be mediocre as long as he is happy I can settle for that. I guess with some things beyond our control we are force to accept whatever life throws in our path and pray in a complete surrender and say Lord he is your son whatever future or career he pursue please take care of him. I love him simply because I’m his mother. Thank you for sharing.
Happy for your son that he is on his way in pursuing his dreams. Calculus? I don’t know how I passed that.